Recently a friend told me she was splitting up with her husband. I wasn't sure what to say initially and an awkward silence ensued. I didn't want to reply with something silly or insensitive. But when she referred to the elongated silence, I blurted out the only thought in my head, “mating for life is unnatural.”
These musings are for anyone who is married, divorced, or single.
Marriage is not easy. I've been with my husband for 25 years so saying this comes from a decent amount of experience. Being single is not easy. I remember that too, even though we met when I was 24 years old. I'm writing this for all of you looking at a screen, wondering why your life, or relationship isn't as good as what you see looking back. And I can tell you one thing. It's not real, it's a picture.
I don't want anyone to think that my life is perfect. Sure, I enjoy putting my best foot forward here. But that's so I can provide you, my readers with a calm, kind, and comforting refuge in the sea of food allergies and health issues that so many of us confront each day.
The fact is though, that my life is messy. I have health issues that I deal with. I have teenagers that I argue with routinely, and a husband that I've fought with far more than my fair share. Things aren't always smooth. Sometimes they aren't ever smooth. Still, it's my life. I'm taking ownership of it, which in my worldview is the most important thing.
This summer I turn 50. This impending milestone has made me a bit more pensive than usual. It's also helped me to focus on simplicity and be grateful for all that I have. So thank you for being here and reading this. I'm so glad we are connected and healing together, working day-in-and-day-out to make the world a better place.